We typically don't think of being an asshole as a good thing, but there's a difference between "good" assholes and "bad" assholes. E ighty years ago, researchers began one of the longest and most complicated projects to understand human behavior in history. It would take almost 50 years to complete. But their work would define an entire field of psychology. It was the idea of personality.
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Sometimes I'd walk into the living room to find my wife watching 16 and Pregnant or some other TV show I thought was stupid or morally baseless. But instead of those mature and relationship-nurturing alternatives, I usually acted like an asshole. I think deep down in the furthest recesses of my heart and subconscious, I believed I was doing the right thing by reacting as I did. Because I loved my wife and wanted her to be the best person she could be, I didn't want her to enjoy watching things that were "beneath" her or "bad" for her.
Why Being an Asshole Can Be a Valuable Life Skill
So, what to do? But I digress… Let these natural strengths lead the way. However, this same vulnerability can be just the redeeming quality you need. Impulsivity and insensitivity come into play, but a big part of being an asshole is often just being defensive. By leading with the positive rather than indulging in the negative, you cut down on the need to lash out.
I was having a talk with my son yesterday, sitting him down and talking about consideration — how to think of others, and not just yourself. People who cut you off in traffic, who cut in front of you in line, who say rude things, who take your parking spot, who hurt your feelings. I realized, when I was having that talk with my son, that I had been rude to someone yesterday. The rest of us need it, I think. What are the consequences of being more considerate?